bearbones ☾

4/25/2039

nothing really eventful has happened in my life for years up until now.there’s so much more going on here than i can keep up with! i guess i’m just not used to being in someone else’s company, let alone a whole group. it’s nice, though. it gives me so much more to write about; maybe it’ll be nice to jot down some things from time to time.

clover is fitting in. she loves everybody, and i feel like she’s met more people than i have. she’s a sweet girl, and i hope everybody eventually sees that. i know that she’s so happy, here. it makes me happier than anything to see her finally getting to run about without a care in the world. it’s exactly what i had wanted for her when i came to the lodge.  : )

the last thing i had expected when i came here was to see ellie again… i feel so guilty for harboring such negative feelings towards her over these years. if i had known what she’d known, if she had known what i’d known, our lives would’ve been so different… there’s still parts of the story that i haven’t gotten from her, yet - and i’m still confused about the changes in her life, but i feel like we’re slowly getting back to normal. it’s almost like how it was when it was just us against the world. i missed her so much…

all of her friends are very unique. while i haven’t really gotten to meet them that much, yet, i have to say that the ones i have met are so interesting. it feels like there’s never a dull moment around here with these people. gosh, i don’t know if i’ll ever get around to remembering everybody’s names, but i can definitely try! so far i’ve seen a bit of eddie, brendan, daniel, and hayley.. they all mean well, even while some of them are kind of rough around the edges. so i think that my time at the lodge will be time well-spent.

and me? i’m loving the lodge. i feel like everybody here means well, and there’s plenty of things to do. most of my time is spent fishing, especially since it seems like there’s a bit of a food shortage going on… anything i can do to help works, and i bet that it’s much appreciated. it’s really the least that i could do for all these wonderful people. i just want to do my part, show hayley that i’m not here just to take up space. last thing i want is to not prove my worth… it takes some getting used to, having to fend for others besides myself and clover, but i’m working on it. working with a team is better than being on your own, that’s for sure.

this week has been so busy, and i’m sure i’m missing out on something, but if i think of it i’ll come back to you. until then, i'll keep this short and sweet, and also be trying to get to know everybody a bit better.


- harrison rose

  She had been missing from the make up of the lodge, only telling Hayley and Ellie when she left. This was something she wanted to do by herself, without anyone from the lodge, because she didn't want to be seen in so much pain. So she left, taking two NPCs with her purely so nobody freaked out about her going away alone. That's really all they did, escort her there and back. But today she had come back, all five of them. Yes, all five.

When she entered further into the lodge, listening for the others so she wouldn't be too startled, she was greeted by a little girl who claimed to be her best friend. Ida. The younger girl would be quick to question her about the babies, causing the new mom to laugh "What to hold one?" she nodded "Alright, go wash your hands and meet me at the couch" she laughed, watching her run off before heading to the living area.

Blake took a seat and hushed Charlotte, waiting for Ida to come and sit with her. Once Ida came over, she'd tell her how her hands should be placed before letting her hold Charlotte. She would be far less likely to hand over Thomas after almost losing him already. He hadn't been breathing right away like Lottie had, but he was alright. He was alive.

The Australian moved to get more comfortable and laid Thomas on her chest, making sure he was able to breathe by making sure his face wasn't against her shoulder. She kissed Tommy's head and looked at Ida with Lottie "Good job Ida, just make sure you support her head, okay?" her relationship with Eddie's younger half-sister was an odd one, but this moment sort of defined the good of it. The younger of the two seemed quite happy to be holding her niece, though Blake wasn't sure if anyone had made it clear to Ida that Charlotte was in fact her niece.

Speaking of which..."Where are your five nosy brothers, hm?"

Track & moving to site guides !!

hi! hello! what's up! (that's a rhetorical question, i'm not expecting anyone to respond with the sky or something)

so tnw has been having a lot of babies and pregnant women lately, and i thought writing up a little thread with details about pregnancy, labor, and child development. i'm by no means a professional; i'm eighteen years old and have never been pregnant or had a baby. i haven't even been around an insane amount of pregnant women. but i've been writing human pregnancy and motherhood with my characters for the last year or so, i've visited a lot of mommy forums, and when i first knocked one of my characters up, i was sort of working from scratch. so after many long nights of googling things, going undercover on forums, and interrogating pregnant cousins, i present my collection of... knowledge and stuff.

also, from here on, i'd like to toss out a content warning for the things you'd expect to read with pregnancy. mentions of blood, bodily fluids, discussions of miscarriage, infant death, labor, pain, and all that fun stuff.

pregnancy
for starters, there are the trimesters. your first trimester starts at conception, and ends at twelve weeks; your second trimester begins at thirteen weeks, and ends at twenty-six weeks; your third trimester starts at twenty-seven weeks and ends when the baby is born, typically approximated at forty weeks.
a baby is considered to be premature if born before thirty-seven weeks of pregnancy; this term is extended to extremely premature when the baby is delivered between twenty-three and twenty-eight weeks, and moderately premature when born between twenty-nine and thirty-six weeks.

the earliest sign of pregnancy is typically a missed period. however, this can be caused by a number of issues, from malnutrition to stress, and in a setting like the new world, it usually wouldn't be a strong indicator until one or two was missed. morning sickness typically begins around six weeks of pregnancy, and lasts until the fourteenth week, however, it's case by case. some women don't experience morning sickness at all, for some women it begins around the third week of pregnancy, and for some women, it can last until the twentieth week, or for the entirety of the pregnancy. a fetus can typically be detected on an ultrasound at around five weeks, though finding a still in tact ultrasound, with all of it's supplies, and proper power may prove difficult depending on the group.

a typical woman will begin to "show" in her pregnancy between twelve and sixteen weeks, but there are various factors affecting this, including, but not limited to: if you've been pregnant before, how many babies you're carrying, your height, your pre-pregnancy weight, the shape of your body, and the positioning of the baby.
women who have had previous pregnancies tend to show earlier, as this bodily change is something your abdominal muscles and uterus have experienced before, and some women have reported showing as early as six weeks. women who were thinner pre-pregnancy tend to show more and sooner, while women who were overweight typically take longer, not showing even until the third trimester. taller women tend to show later, while shorter women tend to show sooner.
women typically feel the need to change into larger, looser clothes around their fourth or fifth month of pregnancy, finding their old clothes don't fit them anymore. just as bumps grow, breasts typically do the same, beginning from six weeks of pregnancy, and most women go up a cup size or two.

pregnancy-specific medical issues
hyperemesis gravidarum (hg) which, while considered rare (occurring in about 1% of all reported pregnancies), can cause persistent vomiting lasting the entirety of the pregnancy, as well as frequently feeling faint, and normally dehydration from being unable to keep fluids down. while there are plenty of treatments in our world, they're limited in the new world, largely left to eating small, frequent meals to help nausea, and foods high in vitamin b6 (pork, poultry, fish, eggs, whole grains, etc).
if a woman experiences hg in one pregnancy, it's very likely she'll continue to experience it in all of her pregnancies. however, it typically peaks at the end of the first trimester, and mostly subsides near the middle of the second trimester, save for severe cases that may last the entirely of the pregnancy.

pre-eclampsia or toxemia is a potentially life threatening complication that occurs in 5-8% of pregnancies, and it has a maternal mortality rate of 6-14% among those who suffer from it. it arises typically after the twentieth week of pregnancy, and is typically characterized by high blood pressure and high protein levels in the urine, though testing the protein levels is largely impossible in tnw. headaches, nausea, swelling in the legs, and fatigue are often common, but they're largely indistinguishable from a normal pregnancy.
the largest damage this condition does to the baby is by limiting blood flow to the fetus, causing babies to be born smaller and often premature. if toxemia presents itself after thirty weeks, the mother is 13% more likely to experience it in her next pregnancies; if it presents before thirty weeks, the likelihood rises to 40% or higher.

miscarriages are an unfortunate, but painfully common complication in pregnancy that takes place in about a quarter of all pregnancies, and that's only numbers of known miscarriages, as some women never even know they're pregnant or miscarrying in the first place. a majority of miscarriages occur in the first trimester, and this is largely why many women in the modern day don't announce it until they've reached the second trimester. about half of all miscarriages are caused by a chromosome abnormality, where either the sperm or the egg contributed one extra or one less chromosome, and the fetus was unable to develop further. this is something that largely cannot be prevented, and most people have a number of eggs or sperm in this state. other causes can range from issues with maternal health, the egg not properly implanting into the uterus, lifestyle (smoking, drinking, etc), maternal trauma, or various other causes. in the modern world, sometimes the exact cause is difficult to determine, and in the new world, it would be close to impossible. however, things like intercourse or moderate exercise are proven to have no effect of the likelihood of a woman miscarrying.

infant development
it normally takes babies a few months to learn to do things, to do them well, and do it for a long period of time. when a baby begins to hold it's head up, they might only be able to do it for a minute or two at first, and they'll get better with time. premature babies tend to go about things a little later, and if you want to know what a baby is capable of, you should measure from their due date.
for example, if a baby is born january first, and their due date was february first, then by june first, they would be five months old. however, they would only be doing the things you'd expect of a four month old.

cooing: 1 to 3 months
smiling: this typically begins at shortly after birth, but they're not real smiles; rather, they're called reflex smiles, often caused by gas. real smiles normally start between 1 1/2 to 3 months old.
laughing: babies typically give off early laughter between 2 to 3 months old, however these laughs are caused by physical things, like raspberries and tickling. responding to funny faces and gestures doesn't begin until closer to 4 to 6 months.
holding their own head up: 3 to 6 months
sitting up independently: 4 to 7 months
crawling: 6 to 10 months
pulling themselves up: 9 to 12 months
cruising (walking while holding on to things): usually 3 to 4 weeks after pulling themselves up
walking: 14 to 17 months
talking: this is where it gets more complicated. if you say "mama" to her over and over again, eventually she'll say "mama" back at 6-10 months, but she won't understand what she's saying, she's just mimicking. understanding the meaning of words ("mama" means their mother, "no" means no, "naughty" means bad) those words back and form them in the mouth starts around 10-14  months. however, most babies by this age only really know 1-3 words apart from mama and dada, and understand nodding and pointing.
at 15 months, they should know 14 words, and from here learning picks up exponentially; at 16 months, that expands to 40 words; at 18 months, about 70. between 18-24 months, they should be able to form short, 2-4 word sentences "want some milk"/"mama pick up please"/"lizzie is mean".
learning their name: babies will realize that, when hearing their name out loud it means them around 5-7 months old. (hope knows "hope" is her, lizzie knows "lizzie" is her, etc.)


i'll be updating this as time goes on, to add on things like fetal development in utero, more child development, labor, breastfeeding, and things like that. if there's anything you want me to research or to add on here, just lmk? all this stuff is extremely fascinating to me, and since there are six children among my characters currently, it couldn't hurt to learn more.